The Self-Care Buzz Term
Everyone’s buzzing about self-care these days, but it sounds like a bit of a flowery term, right? It’s all well and good to glorify self-care when you haven’t got a baby who requires burping, feeding or consoling at any given time, on top of everything else.
Well, mums, we’re sorry to say that we’re hopping on that self-care bandwagon, but it’s in your own interest. We promise it’s not all flowery thoughts and deep breathing (although, hello newfound zen). Self-care is about taking back control. And if there’s one thing a mom boss needs, it’s order. We’re all control-freaks here.
Why self-care is important for mums
Mums have a lot going on, to say the least. This can take its toll. One in four mums suffer with anxiety or post-natal depression, on top of the huge life change of having to take care of another little person. Women are also twice as likely as men to be diagnosed with anxiety.
Self-care comprises a variety of strategies to combat the stressors in our everyday lives. It is important to try to find some activities that replenish us, so that we feel better and renewed after we complete them rather than drained.
Negotiating self-care with packed to-do lists
When you’ve got 1001 things to do, self-care can feel more like self-discipline. Striving to take better care of yourself is great, but it’s easy for self-care to feel like just another item on the endless list of chores. When your notes app contains an unmanageable list of big jobs, writing ‘try to fuc*ing relax’ at the bottom of it doesn’t quite cut through the madness.
Small ways to fit self-care into a hectic life-style:
These practices are small but mighty ways to start building down-time into your mum routine. The trick: pick only one to start off with. Rein it in, overachiever. Start small and stick to it, rather than trying to renovate your lifestyle on day one and failing miserably.
If you look good you feel good
This could be something as simple as putting lip balm and mascara on in the morning. If you can’t fit in time for a full face of makeup, prioritise the high-impact products that contribute to a more polished mum look.
Unwind with a book
If you’re in the market for some chill out reading, these books might help you feel more at ease:
- The little book of self care for new mums by Beccy Hands and Alexis Stickland
- Mindfulness for mums by Izzy Judd
- The selfcare project by Jayne Hardy
- Difficult mothers by Terri Apter
Take a bath
Learn to say no!
Stay connected with loved ones
Start a journal
Make sleep a priority
Don’t put pressure on yourself to achieve the Earth when the baby’s sleeping. Hit the pillow, girl. Sleep helps you recover both mentally and physically.